Intimate "Arrangements" To Pay Tuition

Vanessa is 22 and a member of the workforce. She joined seekingarrangement.com three years ago because her job wasn't enough to pay off her mounting college debt.

"In the beginning, it was more of a money issue. I was going to school full time and obviously, school is not cheap."

Potential suitors let Sugar Babies know how much money they're willing to spend-- often ranging from $1,000 to $5,000 dollars a month. Sugar Babies also put their monetary demands in writing.

Then the dating begins-- which in the beginning can be tricky.

"I probably would have been a little more cautious in the beginning," Vanessa warns. "(You just) need to do your homework."

Some of the overtly sexual and monetary demands were a little much for Vanessa at first-- one guy in particular.

"He was a bad egg I guess you could say-- aggressive, disrespectful, arrogant, pompous," she says. "He was a lawyer and I think he thought he could just get away with whatever he wanted.

Eventually, Vanessa made a connection. She describes her Sugar Daddy as a prominent Lansing businessman in his mid-to-late 30's. It was a good match, but not a lottery ticket.

"It helped where instead of two jobs I only had to work one," Vanessa explains.

"It's kind of like being in a relationship without being in a relationship."

And a relationship that was based on services rendered.

"There is no sit-down with 'I'm going to pay you this much every time we hang out,' or anything like that," Vanessa says. "The first time we hung out he just put some money in my purse and I found it later when I went home."

When pressed on how that made her feel, Vanessa said it made her think about the whole thing.

"I didn't know if I wanted to continue with it."

When it became a sexual, Vanessa said she stopped taking the money. Soon after she developed feelings for him and that soon led to the end of the relationship. A relationship, she claims, paid her between $4,000 and $5,000 dollars.

So how much could an MSU or LCC co-ed make if she wanted to?

"If she's desperate enough, there are guys that aren't that attractive and are pretty creepy, but you could probably make between $3,000 and $5,000 dollars," says Vanessa.

So how is that not prostitution you might wonder? Well, because that would be against the rules.

"It is actually not allowed on 'seekingarrangement' for someone to say, 'I expect sex and it's going to cost you this much,'" says Brandon Wade, founder and CEO of seekingarrangement.com.

Wade started 'seekingarrangement' in 2006 and now has more than two million members. But not all of them have the same arrangement in mind that's in the brochure.

"What I would say is implicit, is two people pampering each other in their own ways," Wade explains. "In this case the person with the means and the money is going to be the one buying gifts and helping the other person out and get some love and companionship and potentially some physical intimacy within that relationship."

And it's that word "companionship" that keeps this legally from being seen as prostitution.

"If you compare seekingarrangement.com with a Christian dating website the goal is the same," says Wade. "We want to match two people with the same chemistry who hopefully have sex."

However you're not likely to find two people on a Christian dating site negotiating a price for sex. But if that's discovered on 'seekingarrangement' members can and will get booted. Not that that should lessen any parent's fears out there, because despite the negative--even violent encounters with Sugar Daddies, for many this seems to be the lesser of many evils.

"I don't think it's all that bad seeing as most girls my age-- college age-- go out to the bars, probably get really drunk, and go home with guys the same night," Vanessa says. "Honestly, I think what I'm doing is a little bit safer than that."

Wade agrees, saying, "This is a better way of paying for college than say, dancing in a strip club or perhaps selling your eggs.

"The main issue here is that college education is too expensive so college students are looking for an alternate means to pay for school."


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